If you have the great opportunity and wonderful fortune to stumble upon your soon-ex's online dating profile, don't linger over it, even for the dull, faint and pathetic pleasure of seeing that they are lying to the world about their age and you - YOU ALONE! - know the truth. Because there's nothing good that can come of it.
Also, try to avoid reading facebook news items and posts from mutual friends, because if the ex already posted a comment a follow-up by you will just cause awkwardness. This is particularly true regarding birthday wishes to one of your closest friends if the ex happens to leave a perky greeting from themselves AND your children but leaves your name off the list. What are you supposed to do? Chime in with a separate greeting? That just draws attention away from the birthday and onto the break up. Or perhaps you could tag a comment on saying something like, "Oh hi! I think you forgot me in that list of names, and that's weird since you wouldn't even know the person in question who is having a birthday except that I, your ex, went to college with said birthday person."
No.
You cannot win.
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